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Friday, June 14 2013

Today I got to waste approximately 50% of my day at the San Fernando
Courthouse in a mediation room with my ex-husband who, I'm now convinced,
is losing more and more brain cells each time the guy takes a breath.
(That may actually be true since he's a heavy smoker.)

Now you're probably wondering why, after being divorced for 2 1/2 years,
I'm stuck having to "mediate" anything.

It was a custody thing ordered by the judge.  So there we sat, mediating
exactly nothing.

Did you ever have that moment of clarity when you can look at someone and
think to yourself..."Damn, dude, you really f***** up your entire life"?

I had that moment today.

It was either during or after my ex-husband's lengthy (and stupid)
explanation as to why he thought it was a "good idea" to have custody
of my daughter during work days when he can wake her up at 4:30am
when he leaves for work, drop her off at his ditzy mother's house,
and make it her responsibility to then take my daughter to school at
8am...completely bypassing my ability as her mother to fully take care
of her and get her to school on time without waking her up early and
shuffling her around in the wee hours of the morning.

And just about the time when the mediator stared at him with this
look of "why the hell would you want to do all that?"

I was thinking..."If only this idiot would choose to make things easier
for himself."  (Sometimes you want to shake people and say, "Why the
hell are you so freakin' stupid?")

If you remember, I told you about how he was offered a house (and a
nice one at that) free and clear (mortgage-free) house in Michigan,
even on a lake if he wanted that too.  He was offered extended support
payments and basically a worry-free life as long as he wanted to move.

And yet he chose not to go and instead concoct a variety of nonsense
hair-brain "versions" about how life could or should work, none of
which applies to anyone living in the real world.

Having dealt with more than a handful of people who seemingly and
maliciously are sabotaging their own life, it got me thinking about
everyone else who seem to have a decent logic-based head on their

People like you, for instance.

I already know some things about you.  You are bright, sharp, and you
obviously want something different in your life.  The life you have
right now isn't working.  And you've been looking for something different
to do for some time now.

You just don't know how to get there yet.

Unlike my ex-husband who is living in some type of alternative reality,
far from having any sort of focus needed to get anywhere worthwhile,
you at least have a solid idea of where you want to go but you may not
know exactly how to get there.

And that's okay.

The hardest part, I've noticed, is figuring out where you want to go
and being focused enough to know exactly what you want.

If you haven't figured that out yet then you've got some work to do.

The other thing to understand is that you can't do something just for
the money.  If you'll do anything just to make a lot of money then
become a porn star or drug dealer or something...if it's all about
just the money.

I have been working with students for years and have discovered that
only the ones that are passionate about real estate actually make it
in this business of real estate investing.  Those who are doing it
just for the money never buy anything or end up getting involved in a
disaster of a deal that cause them to lose everything.

A lot has been happening on a universal level.  To everyone.  (So it's
not just you that's been soul searching.)  People want to start living
on purpose doing something meaningful yet profitable.  Life is a drag
if you're working on somebody else's dream while living an empty life
of endless alarm clock punching, traffic jams, office politics, fear of
the pink slip, boss bullsh** and everything else you may have come to
hate that's part of your everyday life, just know that it can change
whenever you're ready for it to change.

At the snap of your fingers, in fact.

For years I talked about how I wanted to get in shape.  Yet I never
decided to make the change or commit to the process.

Until this past April, that is.

I decided...time to get on with the fitness program I've been chattering
about for years now.  Time to make that roll-over annual year-to-year
same New Year's Resolution a reality.

I stopped freakin' talking about it and started doing it.

And believe it or not, right now I'm in near-top shape and I pulled it
off in less than 3 months.

So, I went from years and years of "talking" about it to instantly
"doing" something about it, thus giving me a near-instant result.

Another example...

I wrote the first act of my screenplay this past Saturday.  That's
just over 25 pages of my script.  And I did it by working on it most
of the day.

And this is after "talking" about it for years, making plans, making
excuses, telling myself it'll be too hard or that I'm out of practice.

Then I sat my ass down and did it.  I muted the chatter and pounded
away at the screenplay...and put down a record number of pages because
I chose to shut the talking up and start getting down to action.

I think with all the external and internal chatter, we create obstacles
that simply aren't there.  We create demons that don't exist.  And we
incapacitate ourselves.

This is why my "stupid" students do well and my "smart" students are
miserable failures.  The stupid ones are like fearless puppies.  They
go out into the world, not considering the "dangers," and end up
quickly wading through the learning process to ultimately end up

My smart students (those with college degrees especially) overthink
the hell out of everything.  They talk to others, talk to themselves,
and basically talk their way out of any good deal, plan, business, or
anything else that would enable them to move forward.

Which category do you fall into?

Time to sh** or get off the pot.  And you decide if and when that will
be.  You decide if you're going to do it or not.

We're running out of time on so many different levels.  Yes, the
economy is recovering and you need to position yourself well right now
if you're going to gain the maximum profit benefit that these next
few years can offer to you.

But on a higher level, it seems that the universe is working at a faster
pace to "wrap things up" on some level (and I don't know what that is)
and there will probably be 2 types of people: the kings and the drones.

You're a trained drone.  You're a slave for somebody else's dream.

Time to become the king (or queen) you deserve to be...and that requires
"breaking out" of your current life, thinking, and everything you
believe your entire life is about or made of.

I can't make you "decide" then "commit" to the process.  Only you can
do that part.

What I can do is guide you to different opportunities and allow you to
determine which is most suitable for you.

And maybe it's nothing that I can offer you.  Maybe you really want to
be a wrestling champ and...well, I can't help you out with that.

What I can help you out with are 2 different angles:

1)  Passive income
2)  Aggressive income

Passive income is best obtained through multi-family and commercial
real estate.

Aggressive income can be obtained a variety of different ways as I've
covered previously with my New Wealth Ninja stuff.

Now that I'm turning 39...I'm "older" and "wiser" now.  It's really
pointless to stop kidding yourself with "plans" and "dreams" if you're
never going to get off your ass to start doing something about it.

Stop thinking, start doing.  It's that simple!

It's your time now.  Let's make it happen!

See you at the top!

Your mentor,

Monica Main

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