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Thursday, November 15 2012
Secrets to Changing Your Life with a Little Bit of "Magic"
Not everything in life has to be at a break-neck speed (as things have always been).  Yes, I like movement.  I don't like it when nothing is happening and things are stagnate.
In fact, everyday when I come into the office, I have a ritual.  I turn on music in my bathroom.  (Yes, I play music in the bathroom at my office.)  My fountains are already running.  (They run all the time.)  I turn on all the lights.  I turn on music upstairs where my office is.  The music is usually high energy.  Sometimes I light an incense.
On the surface none of this may make any sense to you.  Below the surface (or in the areas you can't see), it makes a huge difference.
There are several "things" that move energy:
1)  Music (preferably peaceful or high energy)
2)  Fragrance, smoke, or incense
3)  Cleaning, organizing
4)  You physically moving in the environment or exercise
5)  A running fountain (constantly)
6)  Talking, chanting, singing, or yelling
7)  Lights
Moving energy makes things happen.  But sometimes you have to take a step back and say, "Peace, be still."  There can't always be light without darkness.  There can't always be speed without stillness.  There can't always be loud without quiet...otherwise the universe doesn't work properly.  And your life won't work out well either.
Okay, so what the hell am I talking about?
December, for me, is usually a depressing month.  It's not anymore because you are about to discover a powerful secret to change your life forever.  In fact, from now on, you'll start to look forward to December every year.
In order to change anything in your life, you have to start off with understanding the movement of energy in your life.  Energy isn't what you see.  Energy is what you don't see.  It's like looking at the air.  You can't see anything but blank space, yet this is where the most powerful energy forces circulate.  Everything you can see is simply an obstacle to that energy.
Now, I'm not going to go into any lengthy monologue about feng shui or anything like that.  This is different.
I discovered something really powerful and life-changing very recently.  (And by accident.)
I started feeling very...depressed.  I go through these depressive episodes every so often because I've been told that I'm "genetically prone" to depression.  Furthermore, I've been told that when severe situations occur in ones lifetime (loss, divorce, bankruptcy, etc.), it starts to alter the biological interworkings of the brain.
And yes, depression is very real.  It's not a matter of just "snapping out of it" as many non-depression-prone people think.  It's a real brain chemistry disorder that sometimes make people think that even ending their own life is a better prospect than going on anymore.  It's the deepest point of depression that anyone can ever imagine.  (Women would understand this as an especially deep bout of PMS where endless crying for no reason occurs.)
Recently I came to a crossroads.  The holidays are coming up.  My mom's favorite holiday was Thanksgiving, which just passed.  My mom passed away more than 7 years ago.  I'm not talking with my brother.  I never see my dad.  (Don't ask why.)  So, essentially I have no "family" around for the holiday season.
For the first time in many years I made an appointment with a doctor to start back up on anti-depression medications because I thought I "needed" it to make it through the holidays.
The appointment came.  I didn't go.  I didn't see a psychiatrist and I didn't get any medication.
I realized that the reason I was recessing into a depression in the first place was that my thought process needed some work.  We call it "self talk."

Since I bought my beautiful new home this past June, it seemed that the novelty of it had worn off (as with any exterior "fix" we have to enlighten our mood does).  I found myself walking around feeling sorry for myself because my husband lives in Detroit and I don't have anyone around for the holidays.  I have lost my "spark" for training.  My employees have been screwing up lately and I don't even want to go to work anymore.  Everytime I hear from my brother is because he needs money and for no other reason.  I never hear from my dad except when he wants his old job back with my company.  My ex-husband is an ass**** loser who keeps wanting his spousal and child support payments early since he squanders all the money.  Blah, blah, blah...
And finally I'm like...WTF??  Why do I keep depressing myself like this?  Why do I tell myself such awful things?  No wonder I don't want to get out of bed in the morning!
I started reading a book and it changed everything.  I'm not going to tell you the name of the book because it only offered a small fraction of what I needed to implement in order to change everything.  But the book started the ball rolling and everything else automatically fell into place.
Since (at the time) we were coming up on Thanksgiving, I started forcing my focus in a new direction.
Starting immediately (and it was at night when I had this realization), I began to "train" myself to think about different stuff.

And no, this isn't some corny "positive thinking" deal.  (That's crap, by the way, and if you've done any work with "self-help" then you already know it doesn't work.)
I started to change my self-talk topics.  I stopped imagining myself as a victim being bullied by life and everyone in it.
I started regaining my power back.
Sometimes the mass population will see a successful person as powerful and "together" without realizing the daily or minute-to-minute demons they face.
I'm a fan of the rapper Eminem.  He is an extremely focused, intense, and seemingly fearless.  Yet it didn't surprise me that he wanted to kill himself or that he overdosed on drugs.
Most people who seem fearless, focused, and "together" usually aren't at all. 
Including myself.
Even though people can be confident, fearless, focused, and good at what they do, the "off time" is where the negative internal chatter comes in.  And it ruins confidence, focus, and everything else.
This is the part we all can control.
The demons in our chatterbox minds (I'm not talking about real "demons" so don't think I'm a weirdo or anything) will pick apart at our weak points.  Lack of confidence.  Worry.  Anxiety.  Fear.
And at night it's worse because our defense mechanisms, energy forces, and confidence levels are down.  It's the worst when we are alone or with someone who is chiseling with their own negative chatter toward us.
So, here's what I started doing a few weeks back and my entire world, business, and energy has completely changed like magic...
You know, I just realized that this email has run on forever.  I'm going to tell you about the additional magic tomorrow!  (I promise.)
See you at the top!
Your mentor,
Monica Main
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