We all fall for it. The well-meaning unsolicited "advice" we get to pretend we're listening to. Until it gets too ridiculous to entertain, that is.
As it was in my case.
I mentioned recently that my dad kind of moved into my house. He sort of showed up at my doorstep with a suitcase and I couldn't very well tell him to beat it (even though I wanted to). He's going through some very unique challenges with his wife (who I refuse to call my step-mother). She's very ill and in recent months, because of the drastic changes in her medications, has become violent. So he had to leave or risk having an ice pick plummeted into his skull in the middle of the night. Hence, on my doorstep be ended up.
My dad and I never really had a decent relationship. He was non-existent through most of my adult life. I always got the sense (probably starting with my mother telling me from childhood that my dad never wanted kids) that I was more of an inconvenience being around so I made myself scarce. This is why we barely ever saw one another until recently when he, of course, had no other choice but to find a safe haven from the cataclysmic destruction of his marriage.
So...one of the things I have to deal with now is his self-loathing "I don't know what to do" (which sucks) and difference "advice" he wants to throw out there (which also sucks). And I can't even choose which sucks more.
Especially after he gave me a bit of advice that caused me to completely come unhinged. It was the first (of several) episodes where I found myself actually yelling at him.
And this piece of well-meaning "advice" he gave me that was the cause of my becoming unhinged?
He told me to never express how I felt about religion or politics in the business world to anyone, especially my customers and clients. And that if anyone ever said anything about religion or politics, I should just go along in agreement with everything they had to say about it. Really?
Even worse (yes, it keeps going), he told me that it was his dad who gave him this bit of advice, stemming from when my dad was about 5 years old and a local restaurant owner was telling a patron that he goes to the same church his customer goes to, knowing damn well that it was a lie. His dad explained that it was "good business" to just go along with everything your customers tell you, even lying about important things like religion, because it's all about just getting their money and nothing else. Just agree and take their money was the motto of the day.
First of all, neither does my dad have a business (anymore) nor did his dad have a business (ever). And yet here we have 2 people (one of which is dead) dispensing business advice that (a) is completely negligent of honesty and ethics, (b) isn't part of today's business world here in 2016, and (c) from people who have never had a massively successful business...or any business at all.
I'm NOT here to "say anything" just to "take people's money," as was apparently my grandfather's business advice. For someone to stand for everything and say anything and do anything just to get on a customer's good side...is to stand for nothing. To agree with everything means you represent nothing. You must stand for something, especially in this day and age, otherwise people will lose respect for you. And you'll also lose respect for yourself as well.
But where did all of this stem from?
It was my emails about certain political subjects around the time of the election that set my dad off. Apparently I was supposed to "agree" with everyone. Trump? Fantastic choice for president. Clinton? Fantastic choice as well. No matter what anyone was to say, I apparently was supposed to go along with it. Same with religion, I suppose. Am I Catholic? Sure. Christian? Yep, that too. Buddhist? Of course!
One of my mentors had some pretty heavy things to say about his political choice during some of the stuff happening in our political and economic environment. And guess what? I didn't agree with him AT ALL. In fact, I don't think it's possible for us to be further divided on this topic. But...being the smart common-sense kind of gal that I am, I realize that his political and economic beliefs have nothing to do with the things I'm learning from him in the capacity of marketing and business success. Nothing at all. He can believe with 1000% conviction that the moon is made of cheese. So freaking what if he does? And if I happen to disagree with this "fact" especially having nothing to do with what I'm learning? Maybe I do. Again, that's NOT why I'm learning from him. And only a flim-flam spineless loser would disconnect from someone they're learning a lot from that has a lot to offer their future because they disagree with where they go to church on Sunday or who they voted for on November 8th.
I had to painstakingly explain this to my dad, further explaining that I have a lot of followers who love my no-holds-barred style because I'm honest and about no bullshit. And they know I'm not going to lie to them. For the spineless losers who need to be "agreed with" on their political stances and religious preferences at all times, they can go across the aisle to the waiting snake oil salesman who will agree with everything they have to say provided that they whip out their credit cards so they can be sold every load of unusable crap there is on the market which will make them poorer instead of richer. For people who want to be coddled, agreed with, and pandered to at all times...they've already lost because they'll be hard-up to ever find the "right" person to agree with everything they believe in unless it's someone willing to lie about their beliefs just to take their money. For anyone who actually believes everyone should agree with everything they believe in...find another planet to live on because you're in the wrong place.
Part of the beauty in all of us is that we're all different. We all have different perspectives and opinions. We all have gone through different things which result in different likes and dislikes. And that should be excellent because it allows us to have diversity within our societies. How boring would it be if we were all exactly alike thinking all of the exact same things and formulating all of the exact opinions and beliefs? It's certainly NOT a place I'd want to live or be part of.
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This sucks when you want to make money as a real estate investor.
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