Apparently one of my last email blasts ruffled a couple of feathers. Actually, just ONE set of feathers to be exact. I've noticed that people in general who know that they themselves are deadbeats and losers, insistent on blaming the world around them for the lack of effort they are putting forth in their own lives, they really get "offended" when I call them out on the obvious. That their lack of success is, in fact, their fault. Not many people like to take responsibility for their own failures, as it's just easier to blame the government, or this guy, or that guy, or their spouse, or their kids, or everyone else but the person they see in the mirror. If you're one of these people who is insistent on refusing to take personal responsibility to ANY degree about how to better your life, I don't want you reading my emails anymore. (There's a link at the bottom where you can kindly remove yourself off my email blast list right now.)
Such a woman was this idiot named Marina. She sent me an email that looked like it was written by a half-illiterate elementary school child claiming that I don't know what it's like to be poor and starving and this and that. Blah, blah, blah. In which I replied: Yes, I went without many meals as a child. So what? I survived. Yes, we went without utilities as a child when many times basic services were shut off for weeks on end including water and gas. But I made it through. Yes, we were even homeless for a bit. Again, all water under the bridge. The KEY POINT is that don't see me bitching or complaining or needlessly rehashing these memories because I grabbed myself up by my bootstraps (with the help of NO ONE, mind you) and went on to become successful on my own. No excuses. Boot camp style, my friend. You find the opportunities. You find the "loopholes" and study how success can be a part of your life. And you take action to make it happen. Very simple. Furthermore, I've come to understand that it's our difficult times in life -- even our most desperate times -- that build us as spirits/souls. Without pressure and stress, a diamond cannot be formed. The best of who you are is defined by the most difficult periods of your life and how you got through, NOT by the happy-happy-joy-joy periods. And we each can choose how to look at it. Boo-hoo about it? Or USE the experiences to make us better? Your choice, my choice, all of our choices. I choose to use it and build on it for success, prosperity, and happiness.
Difference between myself and a loser like Marina is that I don't compile and brainwash myself with a bunch of excuses as to why it's everyone else's fault, feeding myself a daily waterfall of affirmations as to why everything is so bad for me without at least considering that there are other more positive possibilities. I simply move forward, use whatever tools I have to forge ahead, and I make things happen in my own life. People like Marina, well, they're happy being miserable, sitting in a corner crying all day about how it's everyone else's fault as to why she's too lazy to get off her pitiful ass to make things happen for herself. Even worse, she's blaming everyone else as to why banks won't give her money and on and on. I can only imagine what the communication looks like when she's trying to babble on to a banker or other financial professional the way she talks and writes, like a kindergartner. Then wonders why nobody wants to give her a loan. How about educating herself to come off as a professional? How about figuring out HOW to get the money for deals or HOW to generate more income instead of bitching and complaining that it's everyone else's fault for her own incompetence? Oh, no! Not for Marina, of course.
She went on to say that I know nothing about identity theft. Wrong again, Marina. My entire credit was compromised by my first husband after he opened up several very large credit accounts in my name and then left me with the bill. It cost me a personal bankruptcy that took 10 years for me to sort through. Again, I don't sit around boo-hooing about it. I get my ass into gear and do something about it!
I think she was "offended" because I used the word FEAR a lot. So, maybe it's not fear that's the case for Marina. Maybe it's just laziness. Maybe she's just apathetic. Has she ever thought of that? No, of course not. Again, just easier to BLAME everybody else. Blame Obama while you're at it. After all, he's GOT to be held accountable as to why Marina can't peel her lazy pitiful ass off the couch every day to DO something productive other than whining. In which case, she'll never get anywhere, guaranteed. I've learned how to read people pretty good. And I know when certain someones should just give up and not bother trying to do anything because there is just too much negativity that they're not willing to let go. So, for someone like Marina, I recommend that she just give up now. Don't invest in any programs, seminars, or other materials. She'll find something wrong with all of it even before she tries anything. Best to just stay glued to that couch, continue watching Maury Povich, and wonder in great suspense if that DNA test will prove that the "mo-fo" on TV is really her baby-daddy.
For me, I know where I'll be in a few months from now, a year from now, and even 5 years from now. She'll be exactly where she is now. Still pitiful, apathetic, blaming everyone else, and wondering why her life still sucks so bad because she never shut off the negativity valve long enough to see opportunities and possibilities all around us AT ALL TIMES...even moving THROUGH us every second of every day!
So...say you're kind of like Marina and you (ideally and hopefully) don't want to be anymore. It's a choice. Choose NOT to be like her. But I'll make it real easy on you by telling you HOW to not be like her. Start OPENING YOUR EYES to what's going on out there in the world. CHOOSE to focus on the positive instead of falling into the nightly news negativity abyss each day for hours on end.
Here's an assignment for you:
1) Stop watching the news in ALL FORMS for 7 solid days. This includes avoiding Yahoo! News, MSNBC, your nightly news, whatever. You get the point, I hope.
2) Start noticing things around you. Notice ALL of the positive, especially when it comes to wealth. NOTICE the guy driving the new Porsche, or the lady in that hot red Mercedes-Benz convertible. NOTICE. Then listen to what you are saying to yourself. Are you grumbling about why you don't have that? Are you assuming they were born into wealth or stole the money? Then make a CHOICE to switch your thinking and say out loud, "If he can have that, I can have that too." Or, "If she can drive that car, I can certainly find a way to make the money to drive that too." Again, say it OUT LOUD, even a few times, so you can start wiring that brain of yours.
3) Watch nothing negative before bedtime. This includes 48-Hours, Dateline, crime shows or horror movies.
4) Right before you fall asleep, ask how you can achieve certain things you're looking to achieve. For example, you might say, "How can I generate an extra $20,000 a month net in income? What ways are there that can allow me to do this?" Then let it go. Keep repeating this night after night until you receive an answer. You'll have your answer in a couple of days or less!
5) When you get your answer, move on it. Start creating and working a doable action plan. Don't let your mind talk you out of it. Keep forging ahead yet stay flexible for new ideas. You're usually shown new creative ways to get things done when you stay open. Keep working on your plan. Do at least one thing each day to complete your plan.
We can all choose to make this shift or we can choose to make excuses while blaming the world around us. In all reality, we ARE our world. We ARE our universe. And you can make it anything you want. You can choose Marina's universe. Or you can choose to create something completely different.
Your choice, my friend.
See you at the top!